Follower or invincible

Do you know why people remember me?

Because I dare to break the mold. I stand out. I'm different. I dare to live life. There to dance as if nobody else is watching me. From the heart.

They say life is a dance. Well, there are two ways to dance it. You can get a teacher and learn the steps. Follow the rules set forth by others before you. That makes you follower. A good dancer potentially, but, really, a good follower, always stuck within limits and bound by rules; the same old rules invented by others.
Another way is to just close your eyes, take a deep breath, listen to the music and go with it. Let your heart set the rules and the steps "write" themselves.
Later on, if you really care to conform, you can even learn the "set in stone" steps. But you should always be true to yourself. Put your soul in every little step. Don't let others convince you that their way is better. The best way for you is to do what your heart tells you. It's the only way you will have no regrets. You may get it wrong, it may even look weird; but if it feels right then you've made the right choice.

It won't always be easy. And you'll often find yourself dancing alone. Some people won't get you, some will think you're too out there... Those who know what it's like to live life on your own terms will appreciate your dance; the effort, passion and the fact that you can truly take a chance.

There are two ways to live life: you can be a follower, or you can be invincible.

Denisa (Nov. 9th, 2013)

Thought of the day - Pieces of thought (updated - November 2013 version)

- I realized that even though I write and think in English relatively well now, there are still things that, if I think and write in English lose their soul; they lose their capacity to have the strength to move you. So, ironically, to write best in English, now I HAVE TO think and model the clay of the words in Romanian first.

- The spills of love have tolls that can kill us. The soul has no reason when love settles in. Sometimes our thinking overwhelms our feelings. Often it's good to think first; but what's life without love? Well, love has no reason; needs no reason. The love gives us soul. So, stop thinking so much and just LOVE.

- In a world more integrated than ever, we are more segregated than ever. (Intr-o lume din ce in ce mai combinata, suntem din ce in ce mai dezbinati).

- One doesn't make love become history. Love is what makes history.

- I'll let the brilliant people handle the details. I'm here to take things to the next level.

- "Friend" and "friendship" are terms that have lost their meaning. We ought to be talking about humanity. Not what it takes to find an honest friend, but what it takes to find humanity in each of us once again.

- A true friend is one who, from the little he has, offers you the world on a platter just to see you smile.
You are my grain of reason, my strength in weakness, my hope each time I'm lost.
Thank you for loving me more than I love myself.

- We are all people still looking for what we have already found...

- The drama of a world in which we can have everything we want is that we can't figure out anymore what it is that we actually need.

- From here on all we have is what we give each other.

- Love me for who I am, not for who I (or you) wish I could be...

- Young American immigrants: nowhere people in nobody's land.

- There's a small gap between difference and indifference. Sometimes too small...

- I'm sick of men who "care enough about me to let me go"; I long for a true man - one who cares enough about me to want to make me happy.

- being on a $50/month food budget = best way to lose weight.

- When you give a hand, you receive back a hand, or a finger, or, sometimes, a punch. But I know my hand will always be extended. And, thankfully, some remember who is attached to that hand.

- I don't ask for much; but when I can't get want I ask for, I guess it must be a lot.

- What is life ... but a delusion in which we all choose to believe?

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USED (somewhere or other - by me):
- There are those times when silence speaks more meaning than could any words.
- I'm perfectly imperfect, and I'm ok with it. Here's to those who feel the same!
- Remember the past, envision the future.
- "Circumstantial" mathematics: like it or not, when 1+1=0, 1-1 often equals 2.
- You can ignore me, but my ideas still stand.
- Maybe I am an idealist; I try to see the world as I wish it could be everyday.
- Mathematically, there's only so much you can get from life. The rest is imagination, willpower and "what you make of it".
- I respect people for who and what they actually are, not for what they meant to me.
- I need another "nail"…

- Have vision! It's the only thing that will distinguish you from the crowds. And keep in mind: when you surround yourself with people that have no purpose, you tend to loose your own purpose in life.

Life is like a racetrack: so many obstacles, so many tight corners to turn and fake friends to avoid... And it may seem like a challenging joyride; but when you finally understand that this is a race to the end, you suddenly push the brakes, think for a few seconds, put it in "park", get out of the car and breath in the air - if there is any left.

- "Man, am I gonna regret this in tomorrow land" - Sleeping Beauty. (Wait wait don't tell me - the dudes who "crack" me up).

There's a famous saying: "Many called, but few are chosen". When it comes to friends, I don't pick and choose. My only choice is to try to be the best friend I can be to those whom I'm blessed to cross paths with in life.
Thank you for choosing to be such great friends to me!
Your uniqueness and diversity makes up and reflects in little parts of the person I am today. You are amazing just by being yourselves!

Thought of the day: Life is a lot easier for everyone when people chose to be friendly and helpful.

- My hair is a lot like me: it fully appreciates free will.

- (more like - dilemma of the day): Say your boss is a great gull and she buys everyone in your group tickets for a raffle; you win. Would you split the winnings with her or keep everything?

- Tell me what you want and I'll tell you what you need

So much pain can sometimes wash away with a simple hug.

- Maybe I am an idealist; I try to see the world as I wish it could be everyday.
- Mathematically, there's only so much you can get from life. The rest is imagination, willpower and "what you make of it".
- I respect people for who and what they actually are, not for what they meant to me.

 

Pieces of thought

If you don’t live life on the edge of a cliff every once in a while, how do you even know you’re alive?

This is the stuff that makes memories: The deep joy, the harsh pain, the love that you chose not to share

The tears that have not drained my heart yet… Because… how can a heart be empty when there’s so much more heartache still felt?

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- It's not money that gives one true power and wealth. True power and wealth come from meeting the right people, at the right time.
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- Some only give their time and help to those who they've known for years and have gained their respect. I offer everyone I meet the same thing: my honest friendship. The true friendship test, is in proving that you are worthy to keep it. Time will tell.

Neighborhoods

Porter sq = the creative/insightful
Kendal sq= the ingenious
Harvard sq= the witty
Dorchester = the wicked ... cool.
Hey, everybody starts as a "student". :-) 

Learning

How much one learns and how many things become bits and pieces of our very own history books in just two short years... We are all memories of the life we build each day. We all complete each other's lives in some unknown miraculous way. Some write only one page; others one line, each page, for a lifetime...

Equal rights - Turn on that torch! I'm stirring-up snakes

It’s not about gay marriage at all. Take it from somebody who already went through a divorce and one too many painful serious relationship breakups. You are revolted about the wrong issue here! So yes, this is outrage in my voice. Because I’ve had it! The hypocrisy of it all…

This about respect between people – gay or not. This is about the fact that we are making a mockery of the institution of marriage; of family. This is about a small fraction of people asking a majority to accept that we live in a completely dysfunctional society and it’s ok to accept that as a fact. In fact, we should, by law, accept that as a fact. We’ve made it illegal to disagree or express a personal opinion without masses of … some minority jumping from their cozy dorm room and starting a mass media protest to profess they’ve been “injured”. 

I’m entitled as well to believe that the MARRIAGE should be what I grew up with. Perfect and imperfect. And that does not mean I’m against change. Marriage, trust me, has definitely, irreversibly, undeniably changed! The honor of marriage has died, along with the appreciation of people. The primordial, indestructible “egg” called family (regardless of who are the parents, straight of gay) is attacked shamelessly by our own new fears, inhibitions, selfishness, ignorance and stupidly misunderstood inner revolt. Our right experiment has doomed even our societal basic need to reproduce.

You will ask me if I’m pro or against gay marriage. I couldn’t care less either way. It is not my concern. And until it is in my family, I don’t see why I should have to take a stand on this issue at all? This is not slavery, or some intrinsic right that a person can or should feel injured or below all the rest without. 

Ask me first if I think it is a marriage. I do not. I think it’s a beautiful thing that two people – gay or not – can find something that keeps them together. Any such union is nothing short of amazing – especially in our days, filled with hate. I agree that any two people that have been lucky to find their pair should be encouraged by law to be and to stay together and they certainly should have the same rights as would any two people who choose to join their lives (for … more than a night). But if something is different, accept that it’s different. Why ask for marriage when you know it is not? It’s who you are. You are different, you have a different type of relationship and union. Accept who you are before you try to impose unto others your principals – which are clearly different – as being the same with everyone else's! That is just wrong. I don’t disagree with equality. What I’m saying is “different”, by definition, is just… “not the same”.  

You are making non-issues, major issues. And what is most painful is that we’ve all – gay or straight – can’t stand united for those rights that affect us all: kids grow up more and more in single parent families!!! That is what should trouble us all. Single mothers (and fathers) today have less rights than us all: gay or straight. And it’s often – in fact always – the case: it’s not’s the child’s fault. Sometimes, not even the fault of the raising parent. Single parent family – now that is a cause I can support asking equal rights for. 

Denisa

I believe in decency

I believe in decency and reciprocity. Two things that, it seems, are dead in our society. Our generation has replaced them with ignorance and opportunism. And to top these off, a selfishness that makes even a person like me doubt that caring and being a open-hearted human being is good and encouraging behavior.
Humanity has died right before our eyes. We have killed it. The choices we've made, the people we've become, the legacy we choose to leave behind - none of these make us proud. We aim to be the people we trample on, and spit on, and shame.

This hypocrisy has no limits. It has reached the sky and it keeps on going. When even the most hopeful people in the world stop hoping... "Houston, we (definitely!)  have a problem" here!

Denisa