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Showing posts with label rights. Show all posts
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Thursday, March 24, 2016

“Meden Agan”… Personal thoughts on history, extremes and interpretations


I think of all the experiences that formed me; the tough road to becoming myself. Growing up takes time and it takes... life; living life. Making sacrifices, studying for endless exams, one more important than the other, learning to survive, being hurt in love, getting your first job and building yourself up to become the better person your parents would be proud of calling "their child".
Each of us is a universe of tears, and dreams, and laughter and hopes. Each of us is unique, and different and a miracle of nature in all its glory.
If this was a well told blockbuster story, we’d all pull for the main character – regardless of which one of us that may be.
So I don’t get the words “they were killed”. How simplistic is that to express that a universe ended?
Fantasies like the Bible and the Koran (and any other variations differently named), written by people – like prophets and saints -  interpreted by people – be it priests, or popes, or imams, or rabbis – have become the ruling codices and means of indoctrinating misguided individuals.
So many of us are atheists nowadays; and even more of us, agnostic. Or stuck in a cruel Richard Dawkins dilemma – “world’s most famous” empirical atheist who confessed: “I can't be sure God does not exist.”
I was born a Christian. A Greek Orthodox Cristian, from a heritage of Zalmoxian faith tribes. Yep, as it turns out, there was a one God belief before all the Old Books were written. Faith, thus, runs in my veins. But not as a strict set of rules, any longer. More as an unwritten wisdom I’m only so lucky to be able to tap into. Like a spring in the desert filled with reality shows, made-up beliefs and “no limits”.  God to me is… It’s like having no hope and yet knowing that a miracle could save you.
“Meden Agan”… “Nothing in excess” – says an age old inscription scribbled on Apollo’s temple at the Delphi Oracle. Meanings reverberating through the pages of time from Buddhism to the “middle path” of the Kantian philosophy and further on. It’s been a guiding light in troubling times for me. If there’s a balance in the universe, which, well, there seems to be, than each extreme meets an extreme. Each excess counters another. And I’m not sure if excess love smothers extreme hate, but it seems neither win. For as different as they may be, these are deeply the same.
Makes you wonder: is this “middle road” really the “safe” choice? Some say you don’t really live life if you always “play it safe”. Yet you die every day, just the same; maybe only less fast. You can experience excess through the eyes of those with a death wish. And, in fact, that is very much desired. Information is a great tool for survival.
I was born in a land once called Dacia. A land of strong willed but kind legends who stood up to invaders, while also welcoming foreigners in their home and offering their best comforts and meals. Maybe that’s why America feels like “home” too.
My people took pride in giving you “the coat off their back”, as long as you didn’t become the snake that bit their hand to inject venom and take advantage of your host’s generosity.
They say history repeats itself. And that “if you don’t have any elders, you should buy some”. Our elders still sing ballads of times when Ottomans invaded our lands. You may have heard morphed versions of those stories.  Vlad the Impaler, Prince of Wallachia, might  ring a bell. It so happens that Wallachia was one of the 3 provinces that made up the ancient Dacia (today’s Romania). Vlad was born on Wallachian lands, but was captured and grew up as a prisoner, learning the cruel ways of his later enemies: the  Ottomans. Which lead him to understand that one extreme can only be "impaled" by another.
I often look at the world today… “Fighting ISIS”. History repeats itself in modern versions – wise say. 
Have we become any smarter?

Monday, October 21, 2013

Equal rights - Turn on that torch! I'm stirring-up snakes

It’s not about gay marriage at all. Take it from somebody who already went through a divorce and one too many painful serious relationship breakups. You are revolted about the wrong issue here! So yes, this is outrage in my voice. Because I’ve had it! The hypocrisy of it all…
This about respect between people – gay or not. This is about the fact that we are making a mockery of the institution of marriage; of family. This is about a small fraction of people asking a majority to accept that we live in a completely dysfunctional society and it’s ok to accept that as a fact. In fact, we should, by law, accept that as a fact. We’ve made it illegal to disagree or express a personal opinion without masses of … some minority jumping from their cozy dorm room and starting a mass media protest to profess they’ve been “injured”. 
I’m entitled as well to believe that the MARRIAGE should be what I grew up with. Perfect and imperfect. And that does not mean I’m against change. Marriage, trust me, has definitely, irreversibly, undeniably changed! The honor of marriage has died, along with the appreciation of people. The primordial, indestructible “egg” called family (regardless of who are the parents, straight of gay) is attacked shamelessly by our own new fears, inhibitions, selfishness, ignorance and stupidly misunderstood inner revolt. Our right experiment has doomed even our societal basic need to reproduce.
You will ask me if I’m pro or against gay marriage. I couldn’t care less either way. It is not my concern. And until it is in my family, I don’t see why I should have to take a stand on this issue at all? This is not slavery, or some intrinsic right that a person can or should feel injured or below all the rest without. 
Ask me first if I think it is a marriage. I do not. I think it’s a beautiful thing that two people – gay or not – can find something that keeps them together. Any such union is nothing short of amazing – especially in our days, filled with hate. I agree that any two people that have been lucky to find their pair should be encouraged by law to be and to stay together and they certainly should have the same rights as would any two people who choose to join their lives (for … more than a night). But if something is different, accept that it’s different. Why ask for marriage when you know it is not? It’s who you are. You are different, you have a different type of relationship and union. Accept who you are before you try to impose unto others your principals – which are clearly different – as being the same with everyone else's! That is just wrong. I don’t disagree with equality. What I’m saying is “different”, by definition, is just… “not the same”.  
You are making non-issues, major issues. And what is most painful is that we’ve all – gay or straight – can’t stand united for those rights that affect us all: kids grow up more and more in single parent families!!! That is what should trouble us all. Single mothers (and fathers) today have less rights than us all: gay or straight. And it’s often – in fact always – the case: it’s not’s the child’s fault. Sometimes, not even the fault of the raising parent. Single parent family – now that is a cause I can support asking equal rights for. 
Denisa