It’s
not about gay marriage at all. Take it from somebody who already went
through a divorce and one too many painful serious relationship breakups.
You are revolted about the wrong issue here! So yes, this is outrage in
my voice. Because I’ve had it! The
hypocrisy of it all…
This about respect
between people – gay or not. This is about the fact that we are making a
mockery of the institution of marriage; of family. This is about a
small fraction of people asking a majority to accept that we live in a
completely dysfunctional
society and it’s ok to accept that as a fact. In fact, we should, by
law, accept that as a fact. We’ve made it illegal to disagree or express
a personal opinion without masses of … some minority jumping from their
cozy dorm room and starting a mass media protest
to profess they’ve been “injured”.
I’m entitled as well to
believe that the MARRIAGE should be what I grew up with. Perfect and
imperfect. And that does not mean I’m against change. Marriage, trust
me, has definitely, irreversibly, undeniably changed! The honor of
marriage has died, along
with the appreciation of people. The primordial, indestructible “egg”
called family (regardless of who are the parents, straight of gay) is
attacked shamelessly by our own new fears, inhibitions, selfishness,
ignorance and stupidly misunderstood inner revolt.
Our right experiment has doomed even our societal basic need to
reproduce.
You will ask me if I’m
pro or against gay marriage. I couldn’t care less either way. It is not
my concern. And until it is in my family, I don’t see why I should have
to take a stand on this issue at all? This is not slavery, or some
intrinsic right that
a person can or should feel injured or below all the rest without.
Ask me first if I think
it is a marriage. I do not. I think it’s a beautiful thing that two
people – gay or not – can find something that keeps them together. Any
such union is nothing short of amazing – especially in our days, filled
with hate. I agree
that any two people that have been lucky to find their pair should be
encouraged by law to be and to stay together and they certainly should
have the same rights as would any two people who choose to join their
lives (for … more than a night). But if something
is different, accept that it’s different. Why ask for marriage when you
know it is not? It’s who you are. You are different, you have a
different type of relationship and union. Accept who you are before you
try to impose unto others your principals – which
are clearly different – as being the same with everyone else's! That is
just wrong. I don’t disagree with equality. What I’m saying is
“different”, by definition, is just… “not the same”.
You are making
non-issues, major issues. And what is most painful is that we’ve all –
gay or straight – can’t stand united for those rights that affect us
all: kids grow up more and more in single parent families!!! That is
what should trouble us all.
Single mothers (and fathers) today have less rights than us all: gay or
straight. And it’s often – in fact always – the case: it’s not’s the
child’s fault. Sometimes, not even the fault of the raising parent.
Single parent family – now that is a cause I can
support asking equal rights for.
Denisa
