Heart, mind and special things

The human mind is indeed such an amazing thing.

As I’ve said on many occasions, I’m a pretty stubborn person. But as I go through life I understand more and more that stubbornness can be a very dangerous weapon and can easily turn against you if you push it too far. Nobody is always right. And when you are wrong you just need to accept it and learn to give in. Sometimes you have to follow your heart a little more than your brain.

It’s an interesting equilibrium between the mind and the heart.

I’m told and I read that’s what makes the difference between a woman and a man.

When it comes to committed relationships, the men seem to be controlled mostly by the brain, while women are ruled by the heart. Well, except in the beginning. I think most men are first attracted by the physical part. A woman usually tries to analyze and make sense of everything before she falls in.

I’m fascinated by the human behavior… I see the rate of divorce in the States and then I look at the effort that people are willing to put in a relationship. It’s a direct connection. “Giving up” and “moving on” seem to be the main themes. 

This is the only place I know where you can meet people that go from “I could easily fall in love with you” to “I never want to see you again” in a matter of two-three months or even less. I’ve seen it happen around me again and again. Most people don’t even bother to give a second chance to something that could be worthwhile just because they think “there are plenty of fish in the pond”. The problem is, each “fish” is unique.

It’s all about the human interactions and those special “connections” that are as rare as one in a few millions.

Finding a best friend is not easy, yet most people have at least one.

Finding a great lover can be a challenge, but… not at all impossible. 

However… finding a best friend and a great lover in the same person … That’s what separates the miserable crowds from the few incredibly lucky ones.

I think finding that connection and just giving up on it, for any reason at all, is nothing less than a sin.

The chemistry is something that just is – you can’t make it and you can’t fake it.

The friendship and any other small differences that will occur in any normal relationship… well, that you can usually work on.

Once, not too long ago, I met this couple on a restaurant that looked like a boat, up in Maine … They weren’t married, but there was this… peace and joy about them that radiated everywhere. Ever since I met them I started wishing to be like them someday.